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Nightingale Conant My Power Podcast – Luck

Does luck have anything to do with your success?

That depends on how you think about luck. If you believe good luck or bad luck is something external that you have no control over, you have the basic principle that makes Las Vegas successful. However, if you think you have control over your destiny, here’s a different approach to luck. Luck may be your inner voice, your gut feeling, you inspiration calling you.
Over time, a lot of thought and study has gone into how luck plays out for us. Freud, said luck has more to do with a locus of control. That term, locus of control, in social psychology refers to the extent individuals believe that they can control events that affect them. The concept was has become an important aspect of personality studies. Individuals with a high internal locus of control believe that events result primarily from their own behavior and actions. Those with a low internal locus of control believe that powerful people, fate, or chance primarily determine events. Lucky people tend to be aware, or at least, receptive to what appears to be an opportunity. Unlucky people only see the opportunity that others have achieved. Even when things go wrong, the lucky people seem to have more resilience and bounce back from one loss to chase another good idea.
If that’s the case, lucky people listen to their gut feelings and hunches and get into action. Lucky people see opportunities and act on them. Unlucky people avoid new ideas. Unlucky people miss opportunities because they’re too busy expecting something to go wrong. Lucky people see what is there rather than just what they’re looking for. Luck becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.
Good and bad luck may be the result of your habits. If you expect good luck, you might spend more effort resulting in more success. Thomas Jefferson wrote. “I believe in luck, and the harder I work, the more I have of it.”

The big game favors the lucky gambler, but the winning team is not built on luck, but by the hard work and leadership of talented players and coaches who know how to lead. All of us can learn the winning caching skills that determine the final score. The question is, “Do you want your life to depend on a coin toss?”

How do you feel about yourself?

On self esteem in this episode we have answers from some of the biggest names in success beginning with Denis Waitley, Seeds of Greatness. Jack Canfield, Maximum Confidence. Les Brown, The Power of Purpose. Roger Dawson, The Secrets of Power Persuasion. Dan Kennedy & Dr. Maxwell Maltz, The New Psycho-Cybernetics. All this and more on this episode.


Seeds of Greatness

Think of the word, ‘seed’, and potential is evident.  Every seed has a specific life to fulfill. Everything needed for an oak tree to grow is held within the acorn. What specific life has been hard wired into your DNA?

dreamstime_5653067Denis Waitley has told the story about how he and his grandmother planted a garden together, “I was amazed that the tiny seeds we were burying in the ground would become something we would later harvest and eat.”

His grandmother told him that they were planting seeds of greatness. Years later, that line became the title of his New York Times Best-Seller and Nightingale Conant audio program, Seeds of Greatness.

Then, there’s the ‘Parable of the Sower’, the first parable to occur in the book of Mark in the Bible. In this parable, a sower dropped seed on the path, on rocky ground, and among thorns, and the seed was lost; but when seed fell on good earth, it grew, yielding thirty, sixty, and a hundredfold. The point of the parable is to illuminate the need for us to realize that we are in a manner of speaking, the good earth where seeds can grow into great successes.

Some have given interpretations to the parable such as: The sower sows seeds of greatness in all of us. We just handle the seed differently. The seeds falling on the path represent those who dismiss the idea. The seeds falling on the rocks represent those who accept the idea of the seed, but dismiss it and think great things are only for a few. The seeds falling on thorns represent those who take it to heart, but allow things like money and day to day busyness prevent the idea form ever having a chance. Then, there are the  seeds falling on good soil. This represents those who truly understand it, they get it, they cause it to bear fruit.

You are one of these who like the good soil will nourish, prune, watch over, study, love, believe in the idea, and have a passionate pursuit of the greatness destined within that seed.

Controlling Desire or Magnificent Obsession

Dr. Maxwell Maltz (1899 – 1975) was a cosmetic surgeon. To his amazement, his patients who would undergo the knife for a new nose, perfect chin, or whatever, and later still have the same self image of themselves, no matter what the mirror reflected. In 1960 he wrote, Psycho-Cybernetics  a bestseller claiming a system of ideas that is considered the forerunner many now popular self help books.

Dr. Maxwell Maltz

Dr. Maxwell Maltz

The book introduced his view that we must have an accurate and positive view of our self before setting goals. Visualizing goals and self-image is the cornerstone of all the changes that take place in a person. Not the latest liposuction, botox, or nip and tuck this and that.  According to Maltz, if your self-image is unhealthy or faulty — all efforts will end in failure. He writes, “To win the war against your enemy, your failure mechanism, you must first be able to pierce the disguises behind which it lies.”

He goes on to say, “The act of failing is not part of the failure mechanism.”

In other words, one act of failing doesn’t make a failure. The fear of failure can not be the thing that stops you from attempting to succeed. Maltz writes, “If you’ve never failed at anything, you have never tried anything.”

The failure mechanism is a much deeper seeded fault that we must confront. Self doubt happens to all of us, but can not be a dominant thought. Or, it will shape the result in a way we don’t want. As James Allen wrote in, As A Man Thinketh, “You will become as small as your controlling desire, or as great as your dominant aspiration.”
The secret is to escape the small negative self thoughts, and reach for the success you are meant to enjoy.


Can you challenge yourself to change for the better?

Why can’t life be easy?

In this episode we’ll explore a new way to challenge yourself. Larry Winget leads off with an un sugar coated explanation to get you unstuck. Joe Vitale talks about the turning point we all face to challenge us to change. Fredric Lehrman says our thoughts make us rich. Paul Zane Pilzer on destiny. Zig Ziglar explains how to be tough on yourself. Plus, Brian Tracy, Napoleon Hill, and more have answers for you to listen to now.


OMC – The Edge

CHALLENGEThe old movies have such memorable scenes, like the guy with a sword, holding his head up at some offense from some other guy in uniform, takes his glove, smacks it across the face, one cheek, then the other, and says, “Sir, I challenge you.”

They do this with gentlemanly manners. The glove seems to be a way of getting the other person’s attention. It’s a gesture that says, wakeup, you are about to get whooped.

We have to do that to ourselves sometimes, and look in the mirror and say, ” I challenge you.”

“I challenge you to do more today than you did yesterday. I challenge you to act now. None of this waiting until dawn stuff.”

The salesperson that agrees to end every day with OMC – One More Call. The runner than runs an extra mile, or distance between mail boxes. The student that reads one more chapter than required. The parent that stops what they think is important to spend the really important moment with their child. The husband that calls the wife for no reason. The one extra thing that accumulates a life full of riches and rewards.

It’s mall about going the extra mile.

That’s one of Napoleon Hill’s laws of success. It’s a good plan. In economic hard times most people are willing to do whatever it takes to earn a dollar. That’s one benefit of hard times. The outside world presents all the challenge you need. But, what about those times when you think you’re fine, doing enough to get by, not upsetting anyone, staying under the radar, and making sure there’s no target on your back. These are the time when you need to grab your glove and smack yourself across the face and say, ” I challenge you!”

People that fly under the radar and make no extra effort never get to the top. You, being the winner that you are, will always be willing to invest the extra effort to get noticed. The truth about trying to avoid notice inevitably backfires and the slacker gets noticed for being dead weight and is fired.

One of Napoleon Hill’s 17 Laws of Success is, “Go the extra mile.”

That philosophy will put substantial mileage between you and the rest of the pack that watches the clock. Once I was part of a job interview where the manager asked a prospective administrative assistant, “What’s you favorite part of the day?”

She answered, “Lunch and going home.”

She did not get the job.

The person who will get ahead in any economy will demonstrate certain assets such as, willingness to do more than asked, willingness to learn more about the business, and willingness to produce more than the one’s waiting for lunch and going home. Make it your business to make ‘happy hour’ the first hour on the job. You may challenge yourself to invest a little extra time now, but the dividend will pay off in countless hours of pleasure as a success.

Have Any Problems?

It was a pleasure to hear R. David Thomas speak some years ago, as he addressed the Pompano Economic Forum. His dry wit and down to earth personality won over the room. He explained how Wendy’s had grown to such a level that he found himself sitting in his office, staring out the window, and thinking, “I don’t have enough problems. So, I took Wendy’s public. Raised so much money that I then had enough problems.”dave thomas

He was a fantastic business person who came from humble beginnings and never took anything for granted. With all his fortune, fame, and high position, he was kind enough to share with me his time and his insights. He started a program to mentor High School students. He had been inspired when he was in the Army after reading Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich, so, it was natural for him to be a firm believer in motivating, inspiring, and challenging others to do more than they thought they could. Dave Thomas could easily have chosen to make excuses. He chose excellence over excuses, and look where it took him.

Wow, how far can you go, if you just challenge yourself to look for more problems to solve?