On self esteem in this episode we have answers from some of the biggest names in success beginning with Denis Waitley, Seeds of Greatness. Jack Canfield, Maximum Confidence. Les Brown, The Power of Purpose. Roger Dawson, The Secrets of Power Persuasion. Dan Kennedy & Dr. Maxwell Maltz, The New Psycho-Cybernetics. All this and more on this episode.
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Seeds of Greatness
Think of the word, ‘seed’, and potential is evident. Every seed has a specific life to fulfill. Everything needed for an oak tree to grow is held within the acorn. What specific life has been hard wired into your DNA?
Denis Waitley has told the story about how he and his grandmother planted a garden together, “I was amazed that the tiny seeds we were burying in the ground would become something we would later harvest and eat.”
His grandmother told him that they were planting seeds of greatness. Years later, that line became the title of his New York Times Best-Seller and Nightingale Conant audio program, Seeds of Greatness.
Then, there’s the ‘Parable of the Sower’, the first parable to occur in the book of Mark in the Bible. In this parable, a sower dropped seed on the path, on rocky ground, and among thorns, and the seed was lost; but when seed fell on good earth, it grew, yielding thirty, sixty, and a hundredfold. The point of the parable is to illuminate the need for us to realize that we are in a manner of speaking, the good earth where seeds can grow into great successes.
Some have given interpretations to the parable such as: The sower sows seeds of greatness in all of us. We just handle the seed differently. The seeds falling on the path represent those who dismiss the idea. The seeds falling on the rocks represent those who accept the idea of the seed, but dismiss it and think great things are only for a few. The seeds falling on thorns represent those who take it to heart, but allow things like money and day to day busyness prevent the idea form ever having a chance. Then, there are the seeds falling on good soil. This represents those who truly understand it, they get it, they cause it to bear fruit.
You are one of these who like the good soil will nourish, prune, watch over, study, love, believe in the idea, and have a passionate pursuit of the greatness destined within that seed.
Controlling Desire or Magnificent Obsession
Dr. Maxwell Maltz (1899 – 1975) was a cosmetic surgeon. To his amazement, his patients who would undergo the knife for a new nose, perfect chin, or whatever, and later still have the same self image of themselves, no matter what the mirror reflected. In 1960 he wrote, Psycho-Cybernetics a bestseller claiming a system of ideas that is considered the forerunner many now popular self help books.
The book introduced his view that we must have an accurate and positive view of our self before setting goals. Visualizing goals and self-image is the cornerstone of all the changes that take place in a person. Not the latest liposuction, botox, or nip and tuck this and that. According to Maltz, if your self-image is unhealthy or faulty — all efforts will end in failure. He writes, “To win the war against your enemy, your failure mechanism, you must first be able to pierce the disguises behind which it lies.”
He goes on to say, “The act of failing is not part of the failure mechanism.”
In other words, one act of failing doesn’t make a failure. The fear of failure can not be the thing that stops you from attempting to succeed. Maltz writes, “If you’ve never failed at anything, you have never tried anything.”
The failure mechanism is a much deeper seeded fault that we must confront. Self doubt happens to all of us, but can not be a dominant thought. Or, it will shape the result in a way we don’t want. As James Allen wrote in, As A Man Thinketh, “You will become as small as your controlling desire, or as great as your dominant aspiration.”
The secret is to escape the small negative self thoughts, and reach for the success you are meant to enjoy.